Any bad habit starts with believing a lie. Some ideas are widespread in today's society and can very quickly destroy a marriage. (Continuation of the series)
Lie # 5: "I got married to the wrong person"
Many people say, for example, that they are free to divorce because they are married to an unbeliever. " I thought he / she was going to become a Christian, but that did not happen. So we have to divorce. "They remember that they knew, getting married that it was a mistake, but they got married anyway - hoping everything would work out." Others claim they just married someone. one who does not correspond to them, someone who is not for them a real "soul mate". A bad start in the marriage does not justify another misstep.
Romans 8: 28 We also know that God makes all things work for the good of those who love him, of those who are called according to the divine plan.
God tells us not to let ourselves be modeled by the world. Instead, we need to be transformed and it starts in our thoughts. By allowing ourselves to be transformed, God will give us precisely what we need for our life. God's will for us is good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12: 1-2). Here is the key for those who are now married: The Bible makes it clear not to divorce (with the exception of cases of sexual immorality in which the spouse refuses to repent). Our God is capable of making the worst situations in our lives work for us if we simply trust him.
Lie # 6: "My spouse and I are incompatible"
There are few men and women who are really compatible when they get married. Marriage brings together two imperfect people. But to those who are determined to act appropriately in the face of their spouse's weaknesses, God teaches forgiveness, grace, unconditional love, mercy and humility. Our lives in Christ are built not only by the way we respond to good things but also to difficulties. And these difficulties also include the weaknesses of our spouse. This is why we are told in Colossians 3: 12-13:
Therefore, since you have been chosen by God (to belong to him and to love you), have in you a heart full of tender compassion. This is appropriate for men whom God has set apart. Put on kindness and humility. Have good character, be patient. If you find criticism in your brother, wear and support one another; if you have something to reproach for another, always be ready to forgive your wrongs as generously as Christ has forgiven you.
The weaknesses of your spouse are not obstacles. On the contrary, they promote your mutual spiritual growth. And this truth is liberating! If you choose to respond to your spouse's shortcomings with unconditional acceptance, your love will no longer be based on abilities or performance. And you will never tell him, "You must live up to such and such expectation that my love for you will be maintained." This unconditional acceptance will open the door to change not only for your spouse, but for you as well.
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