"My first step was to realize that there was an energy in me that took up too much space: idealism, I had always been optimistic. In my love life, this was translated as "but everything will work out ...", while the difficulties I encountered were enormous.In one session, my therapist offered to explore my ideal child ", then its opposite, the" realist. "Of course, it was not easy to listen to this last voice. Implacable, she told me that the man I loved was destroying me more than it ... All the disappointments, all the grief I had accumulated unconsciously came out suddenly, but at the end of the session, having let speak these two aspects of my personality relieved me. I had just put words on what I had never dared to confess for fear of being mistaken: the relationship I had for three years did not fill me.
Unable until then to question this story, it took me very little time to see everything that did not work in my relationship. Our visions of the future in particular were totally incompatible. Evidence quickly appeared to me: I clung to nothing. Breaking has become inevitable. In addition to getting rid of a failed story, I had just proved to myself that I could face reality and make choices. "