Each month, Tobie Nathan, professor of psychology and ethnopsychiatry, decrypts your night images.
Tobie Nathan Isabelle Taubes
Dominique's dream, 53
A few days ago, I had a nightmare that remained in my mind: my father, who has been dead for several years, was there and he had lost an eye, he was standing, facing me, silent, his orbit as if he had been sewn in. And his eye was on a towel in front of him, I was wondering where to lead him to help him In emergencies, certainly, but in which hospital I was distraught.Waking up, I felt bad: the feeling of helplessness that I experienced, the mutilation of my father too ... The discomfort has faded at days, but I need to know what my dream means. "
It often happens that the dead appear in dreams, especially the dear ones who have disappeared. In the first days after death, they may seem disturbing. But after one or two years, their appearance comes with a look, attention, and often helps. This is the case in this dream, which contains the message of life of a father gone to the address of his daughter. A message that must nevertheless be decoded.
Your father, you loved him very much! You have often squabbled, though, about politics. He was an entire man, speaking loudly, joking willingly, loving good food and wine. At the first stroke, he was hospitalized and referred to a nursing home. He did not support him, demanding to return home. It is true that you felt guilty for not having done more. But it was impossible. At that time, you lived far away from your parents and your mother was starting Alzheimer's disease. Your father let go, let himself slip. Three months later, he died.
But the event that triggered the dream - we understood it together - is the departure of the eldest of your two children, 23 years old. This is an age where you want to live your life, you admit it willingly. But that's when you thought your world was becoming depopulated. An only child, divorced for about ten years, fatherless, having lost contact with a mother walled in her illness, you soon saw yourself alone, when your second child left the house in turn. It was then that your father appeared to signify, according to your own word, "that he kept an eye on you".
Permit me, dear Dominique, to do what he asks. He loved big meetings, parties where we eat and drink, where we sing and dance ... Have a party in his memory.For the anniversary of his death, invite family, friends, children, people you love and tell them how much your father was in love with life. If he keeps an eye on you, rejoice in his memory, choosing life!